I let my kids go on the computer. I have to, really. I mean now in this day and age, the kids go to computer lab at least three times a week in public school if not more, and they are spending a lot of time doing projects and work using the Internet. But as a parent monitoring my kids computer use is more than just what site they are going to and who they are talking to online.
I recently read this article about a mother in the states who is suing her child’s school because his teacher went on Facebook and talked about him in a disgusting manner. She shared her opinions about the student, never stating his name but only his initials, and yet everyone knew who this teacher was talking about.
“I’m fairly convinced that one of my students may be the evolutionary link between orangutans and humans.”
After reading the article, which I re-read later to my 13 year old, not to bash the teacher or even get into the whole bullying thing online. I wanted my son to realize that what we say online, what we share online, how we say things and share things is infinite. Meaning that once we hit SEND — our words are forever embedded into cyberspace.
Now sure this teacher removed her post, only after seven people liked and commented on her remarks about her student. That doesn’t mean the damage will just go away. How many others read it? How many of those shared it with their friends? It’s endless cycle – this sharing and liking we do. So it’s important that when it comes to our children, we teach them the right and wrong ways of sharing and voicing their own opinions.
“I think the teacher needs to smarten up and keep what they have to say about their students to themselves. I would feel so upset if I was the student, put down and as though why should I care…”
That is how my son feels about the article, which I’m glad. I’ve worked hard to teach him right from wrong and that you can share your opinions online, use your voice, just so long as it is done in a respectful manner.
I see it every day. Kids I know online, sharing how they feel. Using swear words to make them sound cool, talking about having sex with partners, talking about drugs or drinking, sharing sneaking out of the house, talking bad about their parents. It makes me sick to my stomach!
How we feel is important. Sharing our feelings is important. When is the line crossed though?
I hope this mother gets some justice for her son. I hope the teacher realizes how hurtful she’s been, and how her misjudgment in sharing her opinion this way reflects upon her not just as a teacher talking bad about her student but as a person talking bad about another human being.
Isn’t life hard enough without us having to worry about someone always putting us down? We spend so much time being negative, no wonder our kids have issues. We need to stand up and teach our kids to respect the Internet, respect its power to catalogue and treasure each and every thing we share about ourselves, our lives and others.
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